When you lose someone you start evaluating what's
important to you. You think about how easy it
is to take them for granted. And you wonder whether
you let them know how much their friendship meant
to you. Losing a friend (dog or person) makes
you realize how precious life is. Every day should
not about roses, candle light dinners, chocolates,
or even cards. It's about making someone feel
cherished and special. The real story of St. Valentine's
is not about hearts and flowers. Some might find
it downright depressing.
the fourth century B.C., Romans engaged in an
annual young man's rite of passage to the God
Lupercus. Teenage women's names were placed in
a box and drawn randomly by adolescent men. These
men were then assigned a sexual partner for the
duration of the year. After that another lottery
Gelasius attempted to do away with the pagan ceremony
by replacing the names of young women with that
of saints. Both men and women were expecting to
draw from the box, and expected to emulate the
ways of the saints for the rest of the year.
The Church decided to look for a suitable patron
saint to take the place of the pagan god Lupercus.
St. Valentine, a bishop, was a likely choice.
Valentine believed in love and marriage and met
with young lovers in a secret place to join them
in the sacrament of matrimony. Emperor Claudius
II, had issued an edict forbidding marriage because
he felt that married men made poor soldiers as
they were emotionally attached to their families.
When Claudius found out about Valentine he was
thrown in jail and condemned to death.
Later, the mid-February holiday turned into one
where young Romans offered women they admired
and wished to court, handwritten greetings of
affection. That day is February 14th.
Now there you have it.
Cherish the one you're with and spice up your
love life with a good book!
-- Romantically Yours